How to Keep Yourself from Catastrophizing the Future

by Marc Shulman | Oct 21, 2021 | Anxiety

Thinking of worst-case scenarios is our brain’s survival mechanism. By thinking of the worst outcome, we can prepare for it and, hopefully, prevent it or prepare ourselves emotionally if it occurs. It feels like it puts us back in control in a situation that can feel...

Finding a Balance: What to Do with Unproductive Thoughts

by Marc Shulman | Oct 7, 2021 | Long Island Therapy

Almost everyone struggles with negative ways of thinking from time to time. It can be that you’re dwelling on your past or maybe you are worried about the future. Maybe you are even having issues with the present, personalizing the thoughts and actions of people...

How We Create Traps in Our Thinking

by Marc Shulman | Sep 15, 2021 | Long Island Therapy

Everyone has negative thoughts from time to time. When those thoughts become a pattern of thinking, they will quickly hurt your moods and change your behaviors. These thinking traps or cognitive distortions are usually inaccurate as well. We call these thinking...

It’s a Trap: How Expecting Life to Be Perfect Puts Your Happiness at Risk

by Marc Shulman | Sep 1, 2021 | Self Esteem and Confidence

Today’s world tells us that we should strive for perfection. We are told from a young age to make plans for our future. Media convinces us that the right loving relationship will come along and fulfill us. Social media shows us friends and influencers living perfect...

Shades of Grey: How Black and White Thinking Damages Your Perspective

by Marc Shulman | Aug 17, 2021 | Self Esteem and Confidence

When people describe something – how they are feeling today, a past experience, what they think about their performance or appearance, or nearly anything else – they often choose one word in a pair of opposites. Maybe they are doing good today, their last...