Some people struggle with low self-esteem. They often focus on their mistakes, and see themselves as flawed individuals. Those that struggle with these issues often see therapists to help them learn a healthier way of viewing themselves.
But some people also struggle with the opposite. They may not be able truly accept that they have things they need to work on – “flaws” that could benefit from being addressed. We don’t want these “flaws” to be distractions that cause an increase in anxiety, stress, or poor self-image, but we also want a person to have a thorough understanding of themselves and their strengths and weaknesses.
Acceptance of Who You Are is Key to Personal Growth
Part of growing and addressing your own mental health comes directly from understanding your truest self, flaws and all. Many of us have an image of ourselves that may not be exactly in line with who we really are. We may envision who we could be even if that person does not match our core selves.
For example, if you are someone that is on their phone often in a way that is impacting their personal life, you have to be willing to admit that you have a phone addiction if you want to address the issues in your personal life. Or, if you’re someone that is naturally an introvert, you have to recognize this about yourself rather than set goals and expectations that require being an extrovert.
Goals and growth come from personal understanding and being realistic about who you are and what you offer. You have to know yourself, accept yourself, recognize your areas of growth and direction, and then consider therapy your way of reaching those goals.
Seeing Flaws as Opportunities
The last thing we want as therapists is for patients to allow their flaws to define them, and to see themselves as flawed people. But we also want people to truly see and understand themselves. Rather than see them as “flaws,” what they are can be considered areas of growth. We want to be realistic about these areas of growth so that a person can accept the psychotherapeutic solutions most likely to help them manage their mental health.
If you would like to speak with a therapist on Long Island to identify and address areas of growth within you, please contact Long Island Psychology, today.