Overcoming Infidelity, Building Trust, and More
Even the best relationships sometimes benefit from a couples counselor.
At Long Island Psychology, our couples counselors are here to help no matter what challenges you face. Call us today at (516) 732-0273 if you’d like to learn more about our couples counseling services. You can also learn more on our couples counseling page. We have offices in Garden City and Rockville Centre, NY.
Couples Counseling for Overcoming Infidelity
Infidelity is often a couples greatest fear, and the event that can affect the relationship the most. One of the most important foundations of any relationship is trust, and when at least one partner is unfaithful, that trust can erode into quicksand.
No matter how much you want the relationship to work, you can’t build a foundation on quicksand, and often times working through the problems isn’t enough to build that trust back up and start a healthy relationship again.
How Marriage Therapy for Infidelity Works
Infidelity can break a relationship, and overcoming the challenges of infidelity can be very difficult. Progress is an uphill battle, rarely occurs overnight, and usually experiences setbacks along the way. No matter how much both of you want to make it work, addressing infidelity is a process that can’t be rushed.
Indeed, even if you both feel great about your ability to get over the problem, all it takes is one small behavior – one late night at work or one laugh with a member of the opposite sex – to bring back those negative feelings.
But you can overcome infidelity as a couple and, at the very least, repair your emotional self to better work within the relationship. It takes a considerable amount of work that involves building trust and understanding both you and your partner’s needs, but those ready to put in that work can make progress with the help of a Long Island couples counselor.
About Long Island Psychology Couples Counseling
As couples counselors and experienced therapists, our role is to mediate the process, as well as act as a source of guidance and learning to help you discover all of the issues that go into overcoming infidelity, including:
- What Caused the Infidelity – Though there is no excuse for infidelity, there is usually a cause, and that cause does need to be explored. Whether one or both partners were cheating, something had to have led to the decision making process, and discussing that issue and bringing it out to the open is crucial.
- What Problems You’re Experiencing – It’s also important to make sure that you start discussing and overcoming all of the problems you’re experiencing as a couple, not just the infidelity. If you need to communicate better, or handle money better, or fight better, or what have you, these need to be addressed, because any problem can retrigger some of the feelings of mistrust that come from infidelity.
- What Are The Next Steps – Rebuilding trust also has to be a slow process, filled with romance, sharing, openness, and honesty. Many couples need to start dating again as though they have just met, learning more about each other, and growing in a way that keeps the relationship fresh and builds on a better, newer foundation.
Overcoming infidelity is not easy, but it’s a process that can be completed when both partners are willing to put in the work, and when you have someone to help you along the way.
If you and your partner need to recover from infidelity, call us today at (516) 732-0273. Dr. Marc Shulman and Dr. Atara Wertentheil are Long Island psychologists with offices in Garden City and Rockville Centre that provides marriage counseling solutions to couples that are struggling.
We are available to meet with local couples and begin working towards building a marriage and improving your relationship.
Couples Counseling and Infidelity FAQ
What if I don’t know if I’m ready to rebuild the marriage?
It is true that some couples may choose to no longer continue the relationship after infidelity. But couples counseling can still help you learn to recover from the break in trust so that no matter what relationship you pursue, you are able to feel healed and give yourself to it.
My partner doesn’t want to come to couples counseling. What can I do?
We offer individual relationship counseling for those that want to help themselves recover form infidelity or learn more about their dating/relationship habits but are not able to come with their partner. However, we do believe that the best way for a relationship to heal is if both of you are present.
I was cheated on long ago by an ex and never recovered. Can you help?
Yes, our individual couples counseling service is a good way to learn to embrace relationships and love again.
How many sessions does recovery take?
Relationships are incredibly complex, and so it is difficult to put an exact number on the sessions. As we move forward we can talk about progress and see how you’re feeling as a couple.