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What Happens When No One Can See Your True Self Online?

by Mar 28, 2024Resilience

In an earlier blog post, we spoke about perfectionism and the dangers that social media can cause. Today, we’re going to expand on that and talk about how showing people only the best of us can itself be damaging to our mental health.

No one posts their true selves. No one posts their crying, their fears, their disasters, or their day to day stress. People typically only post what they feel is the “Best” of them – the photos with their family that look amazing. The vacations. The selfies that are all at the right angle.

We do this for our own reasons, but one of the effects of this is that anyone viewing these images eventually only knows us by those images. They see our lives as perfect as we do.

Why This Matters

Imagine you are going through a difficult time in your life that very few people know about. Maybe you and your spouse have been fighting often, or work is causing you immense psychological distress.

When people only know you by the perfect things you post, they treat you differently as a result:

  • They may speak highly or enviously of you and your partner, not knowing that you both are struggling and not thinking that you may need a friend.
  • They may inadvertently cause you to feel “unseen,” because they only know you through what you post and not the deeper you that has more going on.
  • They may treat you differently. They may not ask you how you’re doing as often, or notice if you are showing signs of distress.

It can be hurtful to feel like no one really knows you. Yet social media does that, often, because it causes you to only post what you want people to see, and thus causes other people to see only what you by what you post. You can become, depending on what you post, “the wealthy person that is always going on vacation and madly in love with their partner” when you may really be “the person living month to month that travels to escape and is worried their relationship will fail.”

Not being seen for who you are can make it difficult to feel like you have a support system that knows you and cares about you.

The Real You

Your value and your worth should not be affected by social media. But they often are, even for those that may not have any desire to be influencers or be seen. Being aware of this, and making sure that there are many people in our lives that do know us truly and honestly, can be an important part of maintaining good mental health.

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