There are many factors that increase happiness. As a therapist, a factor that I often consider is how comfortable each person is in their own skin. Being comfortable with who you are is one of the most critical elements of happiness, and it is something we work on in therapy.
What Does it Mean to Be Comfortable?
Many components go into feeling comfortable with yourself. But the more you embrace who you are, the more you can focus on what will make you happy. Some examples of what it means to feel comfortable with yourself include:
- Realistically Evaluating Yourself – Being comfortable with who you are means having a solid understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, without any self-judgment.
- Learning Your Values and Motivations – It helps to know what motivates you and what matters to you most, and be willing to accept and guide yourself towards those motivations.
- Accepting Roadblocks – It also helps to know what stands in your way of meeting your goals in a realistic way while also not letting them hold you back unnecessarily.
It also involves an acceptance of who you are without feeling guilty or apologetic for not being something that you are not.
How Therapy Can Facilitate This Process
Far too often I find that my clients simply do not feel comfortable being themselves. When you are comfortable with yourself then you are more likely to be happy. It is also something that gets projected into the world, as people are typically draw to those that are comfortable with themselves because they sense an authenticity about, and they enjoy being around those types of people.
For those men and women that find that they are unhappy, first discover if you are comfortable with yourself. If not, that may be the first place we begin. I have three offices where I can conduct therapy – one in Garden City, one in Lawrence, and a brand new one opening up in Rockville Centre. If you’ve been looking for a Long Island psychologist, contact me today to get started.