Within our relationships, we have a tendency to put friends into categories. For example, a “guy I know,” “a good friend,” a “best friend,” and so on. The latter category of “best” friend is an especially important one. Usually, that term has a specific meaning regarding closeness, support, and more.
When we think about our “best” friend, we often believe that that person should be someone we talk to or lean on for everything and anything. After all, that’s what friends are for, and this friend is your “best” one. But doing so many lead to disappointment, because there are likely going to be situations in which the other person:
- Does not know what to say.
- Isn’t able to be there for you in your time of need.
- May not have the right type of support for your troubles.
Because while we may categorize someone as a best friend, they are still a unique individual with their own lives, their own strengths, their own weaknesses, and more. No matter how close we feel to them and how great a friend they are, there are situations where they may not be the right one for that particular challenge.
Alternative Methods of Support
Someone doesn’t have to be perfect to still be our best friend. They show their support and care in other ways or for other topics. Rather than put so much pressure on that particular friendship, it may help and be more beneficial to recognize and utilize the strengths of other close friends at different times and issues in your life.
Some friends are able to lift you up when you’re down. Others are able to give you great advice. Others are better listeners, and still others are “fun” and can help you take your mind off of your struggles. Different friends are able to do different things for you during times of need.
It doesn’t mean the other friend is not your “best” friend. What it means is that you’re seeking out the support you need from those that care about you and are better equipped to provide that support. It also helps grow those relationships as well, because all of your close friends are still a support system for you just as you are there for them.
Not every friend is a “best” for everything, and that’s okay. What matters more is that you are getting the care you need, from whichever close friend is able to give it to you.