Determining if you are an introvert or an extrovert remains all the rage. Many people – especially young people – have their MBTI scores memorized, and introduce themselves according to these traits.
Yet there are situations in which these may be misleading. Some people are not introverts at all. Some people are actually extroverts, but struggle socially in a way that is draining and overwhelming. These individuals may enjoy talking to other people, but may struggle with conditions like social anxiety, causing them to feel as though social experiences are a struggle.
Introversion vs. Social Anxiety
Some people prefer to be alone. They may or may not struggle socially, but they are perfectly content without too many people in their lives. Many people are introverts, and although some introverts can seem shy or uncomfortable around people, many are comfortable with themselves.
On the other hand, social anxiety is not about preference for solitude. It’s a mental health condition characterized by intense fear and worry in social situations. A person with social anxiety may want to engage with others but is held back by an overwhelming fear of judgment, rejection, or embarrassment. Over time, a socially anxious extrovert may become used to solitude to the point where they identify as introverts, but their true self is something else.
For a more severely socially anxious person, even the idea of being around people can create significant stress, leading to avoidance of social gatherings altogether, despite a desire to connect.
Signs You May Be a Socially Anxious Extrovert
It’s common to confuse social anxiety with introversion, but there are several signs that you may be a socially anxious extrovert rather than an introvert. For example:
- You enjoy being around people and often look forward to social gatherings, but when the event arrives, you feel overwhelmed or panicked.
- You find yourself constantly worrying about how others perceive you, replaying conversations in your head, and overanalyzing your behavior after social interactions.
- When in social settings, you may feel uncomfortable or self-conscious, despite enjoying the company of others.
- After social events, you feel mentally and physically drained, not because you’re an introvert, but because of the constant battle with your anxiety.
For more severe social anxiety, you may find that you turn down social invitations not because you want to be alone, but because the thought of attending fills you with dread, even though you know you might enjoy it once there.
Managing Social Anxiety as an Extrovert
Therapy (CBT) is one of the most effective treatments for social anxiety. At Long Island Psychology, we can help you manage your anxiety and make sure that you’re able to navigate your relationship with social situations. If you’re struggling with social anxiety, give us a call, today.
