One of the most stressful times at the end of any marriage is mediation. Mediation is when tempers may flare, because both partners are still on high emotion, trying to figure out the best way to split while simultaneously continuing to fighting and air out their grievances.
Even the lead up to mediation can be incredibly stressful, as can waiting to figure out who gets what “stuff” and what the future is going to hold. Mediation is also the reminder that the separation is real, and that it is something that is going to change your life dramatically in the future.
If you’re going through mediation, consider talking to a Long Island couples counselor. Call us today at (516) 732-0273 to learn more.
Long Island Mediation Counseling and Therapy
When you go through mediation on Long Island, and all the nearby cities and townships, the stress can be overwhelming. Because this is also the start of your new life, you don’t want to start it off under that kind of stress, as it will make the ensuing months even harder.
That’s why we offer counseling services for those going through divorce mediation, that need help coping with the transitions and tensions that many go through during the mediation process. We’ll help you with:
- Overcoming the stress before mediation
- Helping you cope with the anger and tensions during mediation
- Teaching you to control your emotions as you figure out who is getting what
- Figuring out how to talk to your children, and the stress that entails
- Starting your life over after the mediation has ended
Mediation can be a difficult endeavor, but it doesn’t have to be excessively stressful or overwhelming.
Sometimes you just need assistance navigating through the process. If you’re going to mediation in Long Island and need counseling/therapy to help you, call us today at (516) 732-0273, and we can begin taking the necessary steps to help you achieve well-being.
The Gottman Method in Our Couples Work
When couples come to us stuck in the same argument, or slowly drifting apart without quite knowing why, we often draw on the Gottman Method alongside the other approaches described above. Developed from decades of direct observation of real couples, it gives us a concrete language for what is actually happening in a relationship: the balance of positive to negative interactions during conflict, patterns like criticism, defensiveness, or withdrawal that predict distress over time, and the strength of a couple's underlying friendship outside of conflict altogether.
In session, this might look like helping partners notice and respond to each other's small bids for connection during an ordinary week, not just during a planned date night, or working through a structured process for rebuilding trust after an affair or a significant breach. We find these tools especially useful for couples who still have real affection for each other but have lost their footing around communication and repair.
Gottman's approach is rarely the only thing we use. Most couples benefit from combining this structured skill building with the deeper emotional and individual work each partner brings into the room.
